What does a man desire out of life? Marriage is, ideally, a once in a lifetime thing. Marriage is a major life event that can make or break someone. This is something young men and older men should reflect on. I have a song for this.
The Question: What constitutes a marriage exactly?
A marriage would be a commitment plus a consummation. Jesus Christ is a priest. He sees everything. A marriage would not necessarily need to have a government approval, a priest, or witnesses.
Given a couple was married in "secret," did dad and mom have other plans? There could potentially be problems there. It may be good to have permission, and witnesses.
The Body of Christ is society. There may be rules for a community. Given someone is part of the Body of Christ, a Christian society, they should follow the rules. The basics of a marriage may be a commitment plus a consummation. There may have ended up rules in place, and a tradition, for a reason. Follow the rules.
Have you ever seen the movie "Blue Lagoon?" Two young people were shipwrecked. They ended up married.
Was a female, a "long term girlfriend," and rationalizing "trial marriages?" She was a long term prostitute who was giving a man things he should have in marriage. Stop trying to rationalize sin. Repent.
Out of all the Laws of Moses, what were gentile Christians suppose to do? One of the things was abstain from sexual immorality. (Acts 15:29) This would be fundamental to the religion. Christians are instructed to not join their body with a prostitute. (1 Corinthians 6:16-18)
In 1960, there was prayer in schools. A lot has changed since 1960. The Modern World was built on Christian Tolerance. Christian tolerance was built upon a shared sense of values. We are in Post-Modernism where people have worked to break down that Christian Tolerance. There has been a culture war. Christians need to separate themselves from Non-Christians, and live in Christian communities. You should know your neighbors. Given your neighbors were not Christians, there may be problems. At the school board meetings, everyone there should be Christian because you are living in a Christian community, in agreement of The Standards. Sin is missing the mark, not making the standard.